Stress in Kids

Stress is a common discussion point among adults and something we experience on a regular basis—no surprise with everything we do and all the responsibilities we hold daily. Less expected is the amount of stress many of our children feel. In small amounts, stress can be good and help children develop coping measures, but in excess, it can affect the way kids feel, act and think (MedlinePlus.gov).

Stress is the accumulation of demands placed upon us and our ability to deal with them. These demands can arise from both internal and external sources. Internally, kids from an early age can feel overwhelmed with the stress of expectations that they act and behave a certain way. They also can react to separation anxiety and social pressures to make friends and follow directions. Externally, kids can be upset by what they see and hear, whether that’s something happening on the news, arguments or discussions they hear between their parents or what they think they know about what’s happening in their lives and the lives of others around them. Finally, a child with an overly busy schedule may suffer from stress because he doesn’t have enough downtime to unwind and enjoy being a child (HealthyKids.org).

Kids manifest their stress in many ways. Oftentimes it comes out in poor behavior, such as moodiness, bullying or defying authority.  Stress also shows itself in poor sleep, stomachaches, trouble concentrating at school, headaches, clinginess or withdrawing from loved ones. Some children will want to talk about their concerns and others will hold everything inside. No matter which category your child falls into, being available for him and maintaining open communication is the best thing you can do (KidsHealth.org). Other coping mechanisms include making sure your child is getting enough sleep and eating a well-balanced diet. Additionally, over-scheduling can cause unnecessary stress, so managing schedules to allow downtime is important.

Solving all of your child’s problems for him throughout his lifetime is impossible and inappropriate. By teaching kids healthy coping mechanisms, you can help prepare them to manage any stressors in the future.            

Jessica Heine is a labor and delivery nurse. She lives in Olathe with her family.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.