I am still struggling with what to do for my wife for Mother’s Day (yes, I know time is getting short). As I wrote last week, I want to do something special for the mother of my children, it’s just that nothing really comes to mind. Every year, my kids and I get/make her cards, we get her flowers, occasionally we get up early enough to give her breakfast in bed. This year, I was hoping to do something more, something we could make into a Mother’s Day tradition, but I am just at a loss. In desperation, I turned to my wife and asked her what she would like for Mother’s Day. She told me that the kids just need to make her cards, she doesn’t want anything else this year, not even flowers. In frustration, I pushed her for an answer, but all she said was, “Seriously, I don’t want anything, really.”
Really? Seriously? Is this code for “I really want something, but I expect you to do able to figure it out on your own” or “After all this time, you should be able to think of something”. Really, seriously, I am at a loss. I feel that I am treading on dangerous ground here. I run the risk of upsetting her no matter what I do. I can take her at her word, assume she really doesn’t want anything for Mother’s Day, and just have the kids make her cards. But what if I am wrong? What if she really doesn’t want anything, but is hoping that we will surprise her? What if she really does want something and I am just missing the signals? If we don’t do anything, she may be disappointed, but if we get her something, she might be upset because she told me not to get her anything. I need help.
How do I break the Mother’s Day code? The last thing I want to do is disappoint the woman I love on her special day.