Two weeks after I had my son, I headed to church to show him off and visit with friends. On my way through the doors, a man looked at me, while I carried my son in the infant car seat, and said, “Working on another one, huh?”
I was dumbfounded. I managed some response about recently having a baby and certainly not expecting another one any time soon. I hoped I didn’t look as upset as I felt as I went on my way to find my friends.
I remembered this story the other day as my friend told me about a recent experience of hers. While she was in the store with her three young children, someone asked she was pregnant. As if that wasn’t bad enough, the person went on to predict she was having a girl. My friend certainly isn’t pregnant. In fact, she is one of those lucky few who is already back to her pre-baby weight and her baby is only seven months old!
I write this to remind you that if you want to live a long and happy life, never, I repeat never unless your profession requires it, ask a woman if she is pregnant. (I'm only sort of kidding.) It’s just not good manners. Most of us, yours truly included, never quite lose that little pouch that stubbornly hangs around our middle. We’re quite aware it’s there and don’t need to be reminded. We also realize that when we stand certain ways or wear certain things, it may make one question of indeed there is another baby on the way.
Here’s the thing, many expectant mothers are more than happy to talk about their blossoming bellies and the miracle within them. However, just as many other women have reasons for not wanting to talk about their expanding bellies. This is especially the case if the belly isn’t growing due to a baby. Got it? Whew, I feel better.
So, do you think it’s appropriate to ask a woman if she’s pregnant?