annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Whether across the country or just across town, moving is a big adjustment for everyone in the family. Children, in particular, can feel overwhelmed and uprooted because they are rarely in control of the decision to change homes, neighborhoods or schools. Here are some tips to help parents support their kids through the transition.
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Talk it over
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna As early as possible, start preparing your children for the move by letting them know where, when and why you are making the move. Let them know you understand this may be upsetting or scary to them, but it is also an exciting and fun adventure you will do together. Give them the opportunity to talk through their feelings and make sure they know they have permission to be sad, angry, excited or scared—sometimes all at the same time!
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Take a tour
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna When house hunting, try to involve kids as much as possible. This will help them feel a part of the decision. Let them tour possible homes with you and give their opinions. If this is not possible, let them be a part of the decisions after you have it narrowed down to a few contenders. Give them the chance to pick their bedroom and play spaces. Some kids may enjoy decorating or adding new pieces to their room, while others prefer keeping the familiar things from the previous home.
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Maintain routines
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Once the move is complete, it is important to maintain similar routines as in the previous house, a practice that helps kids feel safer in their new environment. Parents should also be aware that regression in potty training, behavior and sleep are totally normal for kids to go through when they are experiencing significant transitions in their lives. Try to be consistent and patient while they adjust to their new surroundings.
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Foster friendships
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna One of the most positive things about moving is the opportunity to make new friends. Parents can make moving easier by helping their kids meet new people. Host a playdate, get involved in sports or other activities, take a plate of cookies to the neighbors and introduce yourself to other families at the neighborhood park. It can be hard for kids—and parents—to step out of their comfort zone, but making some friends and acquaintances makes you feel much more at home in a new place. Parents should also encourage their children to continue friendships from their previous home as much as possible. Just because there is more distance between friends does not mean the relationship has to end.
annaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaannaanna Moving is a challenge for both kids and parents, too. Try to set an example for your kids by acknowledging sad feelings while keeping a positive attitude and embracing your new neighborhood.anna Explain, too, that though the place you live may change, the important things won’t—your family will be together, and you will always love each other no matter where you live.
Sarah Lyons is a freelance writer who lives in Olathe with her family.