The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists suggests girls between the ages of 13 and 15 begin visiting an OB/GYN. Many wait until they’re 18 or older. Maybe you’re 21 and just now looking into it. Or maybe you just moved and have to start your search all over.
An obstetrician, according to the American Pregnancy Association, usually offers services like annual Pap tests or managing pregnancy complications, attending births and providing postpartum care. Choosing an OB/GYN is a very personal decision. There is no right or wrong way to choose, and who you select may not be another person’s first choice. You might even choose someone, decide the fit isn’t right and make an appointment with someone new. That’s perfectly normal, too.
I will start by saying this: I’ve seen three different OB doctors in my life (I only switched due to moving and changes in insurance), and each had traits or strengths I appreciated. The saying, “to each her own” truly applies here. It may take a little research, extra phone calls and Google searches, but putting in the work will ensure you end up with the best choice for you.
It’s like choosing a (very medically qualified) friend who just so happens to know your entire medical history. No big deal. You need someone with whom you’ll be able to share uncomfortable symptoms and annoying aches and pains, and ask embarrassing questions that you wouldn’t ask just anyone.
So where do you start? If you are brand new to this, don’t be intimidated. You’ll find the right fit, and the process shouldn’t be too complicated. Here are a few steps to start this journey.
Ask a friend or family member you trust
Start by asking close friends, your older sisters, your mom, your aunt, your cousins—anyone you’re comfortable with—who they see or who they’ve heard positive feedback about.
Make a list of questions or concerns. What made her choose this person? What sets this doctor apart from other OB/GYNs? Is the physician easy to get hold of if you have questions after your appointment? Is her schedule already booked? Your friend or family member’s word may be enough for you to set up your first check-up with the recommended doctor.
Research their histories and specialties
Do you plan on getting pregnant and need an OB who specializes in high-risk pregnancies, for example? What is his or her approach to prenatal care and delivery? How likely is it this OB will be available to deliver your baby?
You may also need someone who can coach you through labor and delivery and postpartum depression, for example. This factor would play a major role in your decision.
Select a hospital in network
You’ve finally settled on an OB at a hospital with a good rating. Is it within your area code? Is it covered by your particular health insurance? Will you have to drive an hour and back just for a general appointment? These are just a few important points to consider.
Read reviews
If physicians don’t receive 4- or 5-star ratings from prior patients, you might not want to waste your time. If you can’t find references and haven’t heard reports of great patient interactions, that doctor may not be worth an interview. Try to read at least two or three solid reviews on your potential future physician.
See whether doctors have Facebook pages for their practices where they post updates and interact with patients or answer important questions. Scroll through comments and you’ll be able to tell whether a doctor has positive client relationships.
Trust your gut
Let’s say you’ve already been to your first appointment. You didn’t really like the way your OB answered some of your questions. Or maybe you felt rushed. Whatever the reason, you just didn’t leave your appointment feeling at ease. There doesn’t even have to be a valid reason. Schedule your next appointment with a different doctor. If the wait time seems to increase with each visit or it’s nearly impossible to schedule a convenient time for you, try a different provider.
Know your communication style
It’s not petty to want a doctor with a sense of humor. Or one who maintains a serious demeanor. Are you more comfortable with a male or female doctor? Your personality type may prefer someone who handles anxiety well. One of my first OBs, for example, was extremely patient and knew I just dreaded doctor appointments. I always felt comfortable chatting with her, and the appointment flew by.
On the other hand, if you hate small talk and want an OB who keeps it simple, barely talks unless it’s about Pap test results and doesn’t allow much time for chatting, you may opt for a more “cut to the chase” kind of doctor, and that’s okay, too.
Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 5-year old son and dog.
As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.
Important Things to Consider When Choosing an OB/GYN
- Communication. Choose an OB/GYN with whom you are comfortable talking and who supports your information.
- Does your doctor have experience with a condition or procedure (for example high-risk pregnancy, multiple births/twins, c-sections)?
- How does the OB manage pain during delivery?
Dr. Jill Sampson, M.D., NWHC, 816.741.9122, NWHCPC.com