If your child was recently diagnosed with special needs, or if you suspect he may have special needs, you may be wondering what your next steps should be. A new diagnosis is overwhelming, and parents often feel alone and stressed about their child’s success in school. The good news is children can live a happy, successful life, even if they learn differently or need extra help. Here are some tips for parents who are starting their journey.
Seek support from a professional
If your child is showing signs of possible special needs, the first step is to talk to your pediatrician, who can help you identify any potential issues and refer you for additional testing, evaluation and support if needed. You should also stay in close contact with your child’s teachers and school staff. They spend a large amount of time with your child and will have insights and observations parents may not be aware of.
Talk with your child
Many parents may be worried about talking to their child about a diagnosis; however, some kids find it a relief to understand why they learn differently or need resources and assistance to catch up to peers. Help your child understand her learning needs and let her know she can thrive with the right support and resources. It can be helpful to talk with your child about what specific things are hard for her and what resources are helpful. When it comes time to create an individualized education plan (IEP), you should plan to work with your child, her teacher and any therapists to make sure your child has the right tools to be successful at school. It’s important to involve your child in any decisions made about her education or care. Ask her what kinds of things she wants to do and learn. Listen to her ideas and concerns, and work with her to create an IEP that meets her needs.
Seek resources for yourself
Connecting with other parents in similar situations can be invaluable to any parent of a child with special needs. There are many support groups, websites, books and social media groups with helpful information and advice from parents who have been in your shoes. It’s important for parents to stay informed about any new developments or treatments available too. Talking to other parents in similar situations can be beneficial, as they may have information and resources that could help you and your child in your own journey. Reach out to other parents and accept help from family and friends. You don’t have to do this alone.
Each child is unique
It’s important for parents to understand that each child with special needs is unique. It’s essential to create an IEP tailored specifically to your child’s needs. Consider different types of interventions that can help your child reach his goals and objectives. For example, physical therapy may help kids build strength and motor skills, while speech therapy can help them with communication and language development. Special education programs may also be a good resource to provide your child with the best experience possible and meet his unique needs. Though learning from other parents’ experiences can be helpful, each individual case is unique. Seek out the personalized approach that best accommodates your child. Keep an open mind and explore all options available.
You are your child’s cheerleader
It’s essential to remember that all kids can learn and thrive with the right support from their parents. Ultimately, the most important thing is to provide encouragement and unconditional love for your child. As she grows, celebrate each milestone as it comes, no matter how small. Make time in your day-to-day life to have fun with your child as well. Having a child with special needs doesn’t mean she can’t enjoy her childhood just like any other kid does. Take advantage of any recreational activities available, from swimming to art class. These activities can help your child develop her skills in a fun environment.
The most important thing is that your child feels loved and accepted for who he is. With the right guidance and support, he can reach his full potential. Above all else, never forget that you and your child are both on this journey together. With the ever-increasing resources available, it’s becoming easier every day for families to find the help they need. Take time to research, speak to other parents and explore the range of options available so you can find the best fit for your child.
Sarah Lyons is a mom of six children, including 9-year-old triplets.. She lives in Olathe with her family.
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How to Support a Family with a Special Needs Child
- Listen to the parent without judgment or pity.
- Treat their child like you would any other kid.
- Offer to babysit.
- Offer to meet up for a playdate.
- Include their child in parties, recreational sports and activities, and playdates.
- Ask whether they need help—whether physical (lift a wheelchair or help carry items) or emotional (be a good friend and listener, be supportive).