What comes to mind when you hear the phrase “Live life to the fullest”? My first thought was something daring and adventurous, like rock climbing, skydiving, running a marathon or traveling the world. For some, these things might sound fun and exciting, but other folks might go to extreme measures to avoid these activities altogether. Although thrills on occasion might add spice to life and be a great way to live life to the fullest, most of our lives are lived in day-to-day activities, not the highs that come with an exciting adventure. How can we parents embrace life during the daily routine and pass that priority on to our children?
Laugh
Laughter is truly the best medicine and can turn your entire day around. If you are mad, sad or just feeling bored, finding something to laugh about can change your attitude for the better. After laughing so hard that tears are streaming down my face or until my face hurts from smiling, my heart feels fuller and the worries seem lighter. Laughter can’t wipe away all your troubles, but it can turn your day around and help you appreciate and bond with the other people in your life. Laugh with your kids and allow them to be silly and to laugh. Life passes too quickly not to find some humor along the way. Enjoying moments of fun and laughter with people you love is a great way to embrace life.
Slow down
Today’s society encourages us to rush from one thing to the next and fill up every waking moment. Try to pause and appreciate the beauty around you. Take time to notice the sunrise in the morning, appreciate the fresh snow on the ground, watch squirrels chase each other and point these things out to your kids. Show your kids how to taste their food, take deep breaths of fresh air and snuggle a little longer before bed. You don’t have to stop participating in activities you and your kids enjoy, but when you have a free moment, pause to enjoy it.
Talk to strangers
Encourage your kids to meet new people and relish the joy of making a new friend. Some of life’s greatest joys are connecting with other people and the experience of being part of a community. If you are at a park playing, encourage your children to say hello to other kids their age. If your children have a new classmate, suggest they go out of their way to include the new child at recess. Welcome new neighbors by taking a plate of cookies to their door and introducing yourselves. This may be out of your comfort zone, but it’s worth it to make a new friend. A great way to embrace life is through relationships with people in our community.
Go for it
Offer support when your children express interest in trying something new or if they want to set a goal for themselves. Finding new hobbies and activities they love can help kids understand their place in life and feel part of a group or team. This is a great way to embrace and love the life they are living. Trying new things can be overwhelming, but the reward can far outweigh the risk and your kids will enjoy a great sense of accomplishment when they reach their goal.
A servant’s heart
One way to appreciate the blessings you have in life is to give back to those in need. Consider serving your community as a family. Ideas include collecting nonperishable foods for a local food pantry, doing yard work for a neighbor, taking a meal to a friend in need, hosting a playdate for a mom who needs a break, writing thank you cards to teachers or lending a hand when you see someone who needs help in the grocery store. Your kids will follow your lead and will begin to not only notice what they have to be thankful for but to pass that joy along to others as well.
Look forward
As I have watched each of my kids grow and mature, the temptation is to feel sad that time is passing so quickly. I have also found myself looking forward to events and milestones in the future with either anticipation or worry. When I am stuck in either of these mindsets, I miss what is going on today and forget to appreciate the joys and challenges my kids are experiencing. The best balance is to live in the here and now and teach your kids to do the same. When you are spending time together, enjoy that moment rather than worrying about yesterday or tomorrow.
As I reflect on these tips, I see a theme. The things that matter in life are people and time. How you spend your time and who you spend it with are what makes for a happy and fulfilled life. Adventures like zip lining, vacations and skiing are fun and exciting and certainly produce joy in our lives, but that doesn’t mean we can’t embrace the wonderful moments in our daily lives as well. Laugh hard, love fiercely, try new things, talk (and listen) to people in your life and slow down to see the beauty in the world around you. Your child is watching you and learning how to live life to the fullest from your example. Embrace the life you are living right now before the moment passes by.
Ideas to Help Embrace Daily Life
- Give someone a hug or a high five.
- Read a book.
- Have a playdate with a friend.
- Bake a cake for no reason.
- Try a new restaurant.
- Have a campout in the living room.
- Take the kids to the dollar store and pick out one item.
- Eat your dessert first.
- Go to a movie.
- Eat dinner together.
- Play a game.
- Have a dance party.
- Tell silly jokes.
- Share a blessing from today.
Sarah Lyons is an Olathe mom of six children, including 7-year-old triplets.