Which summer camp do you belong to?
- No school schedules makes me feel:
- Relaxed
- Anxious
- Summer weather is:
- What gets me through winter
- Sticky and gross
- Extra family time during the summer!
- Yay!
- Nay!
- My ideal summer day:
- Outside, sunshine, picnic, playing in the water
- AC, inside, DoorDash, movie under a blanket
Mostly As: Loves summer camp
Mostly Bs: Dreads summer camp
First of all, I think it’s important to be honest with yourself on whether you actually enjoy summer or not. For some of us, summer is our jam and we look forward to it all year long. We love the warmth, being outside, the longer days, and being more carefree. Others of us, however, do not look forward to the heat, being outside, or the longer days with less structure. Deciding which summer camp you’re in can help determine how to make the most out of your summer experience. Being a stay at home parent vs a working parent can also determine summer expectations and experiences as well.
We really do only get a handful of summers with these kiddos of ours. On the flip side, don’t dwell too much on making each moment “the best” because, oftentimes, the simple memories are the sweetest.
If you’re in the Loves Summer Camp, focus on what you love about summer and try to do more of those things each week. This could mean that you go swimming every afternoon until dinner, visit a new park each week, go out for ice cream every weekend, plan a playdate each week, or embrace baseball season and make tailgating amazing! One of my friends does a fun park/playground hopping adventure with her boys each summer where they make a bucket list to visit each park in their town over the summer. They invite friends to come too and it’s an easy playdate idea. Maybe you’d like to plan a weekend trip for each month during summer or you like to plan one epic family vacation to get away and really enjoy time with your family. You may like to take advantage of slower mornings and wear pajamas until lunchtime.
Perhaps you would love some fresh ideas for this particular summer. Some new ideas could be to pretend to be a tourist in your own town. Do the fun things in your town or city that you haven’t made a priority. Ask your friends to help you compile a list of ideas. Amanda Wetterson, mother of two and founder of The One Hundred People Project on Instagram, turned a childhood memory of her own into a summer long adventure with her boys. She says, “My mom actually used to take my sister and I to every park in our small town in a day a few times a summer when I was a kid and it was so fun. I was telling my kids about it and promised we could do it too. Once I figured out that we had a lot more than five parks, I turned it into a summer-long challenge and they LOVED it. We also still didn’t know very many people in Bloomington yet so it unexpectedly was an interesting ice-breaker that helped us set up some approachable playdates. Now it’s kind of turned into an activity-hack for me and I now have over 40 different things to do over the summer months. My kids love being outside and setting the goal to visit all of the parks pushes us to try playgrounds we otherwise might not. A lot of them we still only visit once a year, but we’ve found some favorites we probably otherwise would have never tried. And it still makes for an easy, approachable playdate to get to know others.”
If that’s not your cup of tea, then maybe you could set a goal of getting a specific home project accomplished or learn something new either individually or as a family. Have your family give gardening a go this year or try art or tennis lessons. Perhaps you try a new water activity like kayaking at Shawnee Mission Park or visiting a new water park like Splash Cove or even Oceans of Fun! My kids and I have been making a list of movies we’d like to get to this summer too.
Cara Johnson, mother of three, says, “Bucket lists are a fun way to get the kids involved in coming up with ideas of things they’d like to do. We also do a vacation with each side of the family, which we look forward to every year. The boys get their week or so stay with grandparents by themselves, which is always fun. We like to take part in library reading programs/challenges and I usually look for one camp or activity for each boy. We also try to take advantage of the free passes from the library for the zoo and other kid attractions.”
If you are in the Dreads Summer Camp, think about how you can make it a more enjoyable season for you and your family. Perhaps you’re not a fan of less structure than during the school year. Maybe you could plan a variety of camps and summer classes to keep some level of routine in your days. One year, I registered my daughter for three different Vacation Bible Schools! She loved going and I loved the break in the day! If the heat is not your favorite, maybe you could hire a high school student to take your kids to the pool for you during the afternoons to allow you time to catch up on things or have a stretch to get some work done from home. With the longer daylight hours, try making a house rule that everyone must still be ready for bed by a certain time and then kids can stay up later doing their summer reading logs from your local public library.
As a stay-at-home parent sometimes the summer seems overwhelming to have everyone spending so much time together again and it can seem like an unrelenting job of entertaining your children each day for weeks on end. Perhaps you set a house rule that everyone gets to choose one activity for the summer (like baseball, gymnastics, art camp, etc.) and then stick to a weekly schedule. A variety of weekly schedules can be found on Pinterest, and an example could be the following: Make It Monday, Take a Trip Tuesday, Water Wednesday, Be Thoughtful Thursday, Fun & Fabulous Friday. Making summer more fun for you as the parent will trickle down and make it a memorable season for your children as well. So if you dread going to the zoo because you have to remember all the things and deal with tired, whiny children then skip the zoo! However, if a day trip to the zoo feels like hitting the easy button on keeping the kids entertained for the day, then by all means, get a family pass and go every week!
I think for the majority of us, we land somewhere in the middle of both camps. We can look forward to a season of warmth, sun, family time, and swimming but also being astonished by the sheer number of hours in a day when you’ve run out of ideas. Plan some time for yourself to regroup or playdates with your own friends to make playdates more enjoyable for yourself too. Jennifer Brooks, mother of three, says, “We do bucket lists and kid’s choice day. We have some scheduled activities but try not to over schedule.”
Personally, I’m hitting that midway mark of summers with my kids as my oldest heads to 7th grade in the fall so I’m hoping to soak up summer memories with my kids. But from my own experience, the rosy sunglasses come off quickly when all three kids are fighting over what we’re doing that day, who’s turn it is to have a friend over, or who’s turn it is to choose the TV show on top of the escalated demand of meals and cleaning when everyone is home. But overall, I’m in the Love Summer Camp and like to go on outings most days. Whether it’s to the zoo for the day, going on a hike, headed to a pool, and most nights and weekends spent at a ball field. I personally love primarily being outside so the extra daylight is a perk for me. Unfortunately that extra daylight can be a struggle for me when I realize I still need to make dinner and get the kids to bed and it’s already 7 o’clock. I plan to utilize my crockpot more this summer to be able to spend more time outside and to set a timer on our Alexa to remind everyone to start getting ready for bed. (I probably need to set another reminder for myself to start making dinner too!)
As parents, we really do only get a handful of summers with these kiddos of ours so sometimes it’s helpful to reflect on that truth and embrace the craziness that more together time can bring. On the flip side, don’t dwell too much on making each moment “the best” because oftentimes, the simple memories are the sweetest. There’s something special about the mundane days of parenting in each stage. A little trick I like to use when I feel overwhelmed with my children over the summer is to look at pictures from the summer or two before and remember that they just keep getting older so this season matters too. Next year I will miss the kids I have at this moment.
Stephanie Loux is the mother to Layla (12), Mason (10), and Slade (7) and tries not to take for granted each summer she gets to spend with her kids.