Trying for a Boy?

    I am the mother of two beautiful girls. Two beautiful girls who are loved and adored by both of their parents, their grandparents, all family, all friends… my children are blessed with love. 

    Recently, we learned that we’re expecting again. We are overjoyed with the news. Most everyone we tell responds with congratulations and enthusiasm. However, there is one response I strongly dislike and repeatedly hear…. “Are you trying for a boy?” 

    Why do I dislike this reply? I dislike it because for us, gender has never and would never be a “goal,” “hope,” “wish” or “desire.” We believe God blesses us with children and He knows who belongs in our family. We adore both of our girls and would never wish one was a boy. If our next is a girl, we’ll love and adore her. If we’re blessed with a son, we’ll love and adore him. 

    My husband agrees – he adores his daughters and they are crazy about, “Daddy-O” (as our youngest lovingly refers to him). He has repeatedly stated, and all evidence supports this, that he’d be completely happy with only daughters, but would be just as happy with a mix. 

    In our home, it's not allowed to ever speak as if girls are better than boys or vice versa, because we're all equal in value in the eyes of God and each other. To hope for one, to me, would be to place value in one over another... and I simply love children... all of them.

    So, if you were wondering – are we “trying for a boy” – no. We’re just excited to anticipate the newest member of our family, whoever they may be.