Parenting in the Woods

Sometimes, parenting books hit you square in the face, like the first one on my list this month. Other times, they may increase anxiety to a point where intervention is required. Proceed with caution.

Last Child in the Woods By Richard Louv (Algonquin Books of Chapel Hill). As parents fight to manage the time spent with the TV, the DS, and the Wii, here's a book that will make it easy for you. Journalist and child advocate Louv tells us that while the older generations never heard of natural disasters, tsunamis, and global warming, they could name every bug in the backyard. Today's children hear nothing but the terrifying stories of nature gone awry, but can't even identify even the most common birds in their backyard. The disconnection with the natural world could be leading to an increase in numerous childhood issues, such as obesity, attention disorders and depression. Louv suggest that a return to nature teaches children to problem solve, shows them microcosms of survival and danger, and creates in them the wonderful virtue of stewardship.

The Price of Privilege By Madeline Levine (Harper Collins). A well-known clinical psychologist notices that her clients are changing from the "typical" rebellious teenager of the past, to today's child of privilege and success. Our society's focus on youth and materialism has begotten a form of intrusive parenting that seems "normal." But could it be taking away the ability of our children to develop a sense of self? Are they developing responsibility for their own destiny, and do they have a mechanism for solving their own problems? For anyone picking up a "parenting" book, this is a tough read.

Walking on Eggshells:  Navigating the Delicate Balance Between Adult Children and Parents By Jane Isay (Flying Dolphin Press). Whether YOU are the adult child or the parent, this book recognizes the tension of honoring the mother and father as they grow older. Publishers Weekly writes, "To a generation famous for being involved in every aspect of their children's lives, it can be upsetting to find those children no longer need or welcome your advice. How does one parent children who no longer need parenting?" Using interview and personal reflection, Isay illustrates different ways to chart this territory, especially for the sandwich generation.

Briefcase Baby Blues By Rick Kirkman and Jerry Scott (Andrews McMeel). Many years ago, when I had my first child and sat holding him in my lap for hours, alone and crying, someone walked into my home and handed me a Baby Blues cartoon book. I'll never forget it. Comedy can be the best medicine for so many issues. This is the latest (2007) in the series of the MacPherson Family.

Julie Hubble practices her parenting techniques on two unsuspecting guinea pigs in Leawood.