Tips for parents when kids call school the b-word
When my son came home and said his math teacher bores him to death, I had to bite my tongue. As an educator, I can appreciate the challenge of making "improper fractions" truly engaging for students. But does his teacher really need to emulate Jack Black's character in School of Rock?
I bit my tongue because as a professional, I understand boredom may be something other than pure disinterest. Sometimes boredom masks academic struggle, lack of challenge or conflict with a teacher. In turn, these issues can trigger underachievement and unsatisfactory report cards.
What's Underneath "Boredom?"
True disinterest? Disinterest is a tricky issue in this digital culture where many students crave constant external stimulation and will shut down for dull topics. It is important that kids play an active role in the partnership of learning. They need to hear it is not the responsibility of everyone else to entertain them.
Academic struggle? Boredom can mask feelings of failure. When your child falls behind, it may be easier to fake disinterest than claim defeat. If they are struggling, offer encouragement and work with the teacher and/or tutor to turn things around.
Conflict with a teacher? Some students are overly sensitive to their teacher's approval, and the teacher-student "fit" is not perfect. Determine whether a misunderstanding has occurred that can be cleared up.
Lack of challenge? If boredom is disguising a lack of challenge, your child may be incorrectly placed (basic math rather than honors) or ahead of her peers. The teacher will have suggestions if this is the issue.
Partnering with Teachers
If a conference is necessary, approach the matter as a friendly investigation. Share changes you have observed in your child's attitude and behavior and mention how important education is to you. It is okay to ask about a possible misunderstanding. Most teachers will honor your concerns when you remain upbeat and pleasant.
Experienced educators often have effective strategies you may not have considered to motivate your student. One of schoolteacher Jane Klein's secret weapons is choices. "If I can think of two or more choices that I can live with and present them to the student, they feel empowered by the responsibility of choice." But be prepared to hear the truth.
Teacher Laurel Bryan indicates, "Some kids use 'bored' as an excuse to be lazy when they need to be empowered to do more."
Michele Ranard, M.Ed.